There is an old theory many people will attest to that your first trip with a new relationship is a ‘make or break’ deal- either it will make your relationship stronger or you will find that travelling together reveals differences that you will never be able to overcome.
There may be some truth to this, particularly if you haven’t been in a relationship in a long time and have become used to doing things on your own. There is always a certain amount of clean up involved when you welcome a new love interest into your home, she has to hide that vibrator and he needs to put his realistic sex doll away somewhere so she won’t accidentally stumble across it! Once adjustments are made for having a real romantic partner, one of the first things you will want to do as a new couple is go on a holiday together, so it will be time to test out that old theory on the road!
Most couples who have travelled together say that it improved their relationship and that they really enjoyed spending that quality time together in an exciting new place. The following is some advice gathered from new couples who have gone on trips together and made it work!
Plan Your Adventure Together – In that classic tune Two Tickets To Paradise the male singer describes how he just shows up with those titular tickets one day and whisks his partner away on a tropical holiday! While that may sound quite romantic, and might even be a wonderful way to go, experienced couples say that it is actually better to sit down and plan your adventure together so you both have a say in the matter. He might love the mountains and she might love the sea, so maybe they can find a way to work some of both into their itinerary, giving him a chance to share his deep connection to the alpine peaks and her the chance to enchant him with her fascination for the ocean waves! The main thing is you chose your path together!
Plan For Differences – They often say that opposites attract and there might be some truth in that old saw, too! If she likes to go to bed early, be up at the crack of dawn and out the door, while he likes to stay up late and sleep in it could become a problem if it isn’t dealt with using humour and patience! Be sure to make a schedule in advance that allows for each and it’s possible the couple will come to appreciate the other’s preferences and enjoy doing things a bit differently from their usual habits from time to time! The same can be said for eating preferences, one partner might love sitting down for a big, hearty breakfast while the other might be happy grabbing a cup of coffee and a pastry on the run. Once again, planning helps, you both know what to expect on a given day of the trip and can be prepared to make the adjustment!
A Learning Opportunity – Being together in new situations and in new places is a fantastic opportunity to learn more about each other! This is when you can gain powerful insights into what makes your partner tick that you can use to build your relationship stronger from a position of mutual understanding. Travelling gives you the chance to work together as a team in an unfamiliar environment with none of the restrictions you may feel you are under back home, you are free to be totally authentic and who knows- you might learn something about yourself on the adventure, too!
We hope this advice helps you make your trip together a ‘make’ instead of a ‘break’! Bon voyage!
